It All Comes out in the Wash

Our family was raised to help others in need. My parents lived with my Father's parents when they first got married. Later, after we were born all four of us, we didn't have much, when we were young, sometimes we would look under the sofa to see if there was any change to buy dinner that night.   Many nights, my mother went hungry, just so we didn't go to bed, with a empty stomach.  My grandmother would get us handme down clothes. My mother wore the same coat for over 10 years and it was so worn out,  just so we could get the clothes we needed.  My parents borrowed money from my mother's Uncle to start a business. All the family pitched in to help. My fathered work long hours and Mom basicly didn't have anyone helping her to raise us, she worked at home for the family business, and us kids would pitch in folding flyers and stamping them. We would tape the boxes to mail out and put the postage on the boxes. Mom would make the business calls and kept the books.   She would go to bed exhausted from her daily chores, but never complained, and kept her faith.  We may not have had much money, but we had much love in our house, and strong faith. 

My grandparents understood how hard my parents were working, to make ends meet. We understood, what if meant when someone helped us out.  when we really needed it.   When my mother's parents came to visit, my grandfather would fix things around the house to help my parents. My mother's father was not a rich man, but he would leave money when he came to visit, that we would find later. He always seems to know when times were tough.  He never would take credit for leaving the money.  I am sure he did without just to help our family out.  My mother's mother, people would say, she would give the shirt off her back for someone in need.

They never expect payment, or credit for this, because what goes around comes around.

I have found in my life that this is so very true. I have never forgotten my grandparents help, knowing we would not have made it though without them. It was a very fond memory, I carry with me today.   Once I helped a fellow cousin out and wouldn't accept payment. I was just happy I was in a position to help. My cousin and her husband were down on there luck. I said don't worry it will come out in the wash, Someday you can help someone.   You will remember me and smile.  My cousin understood but her husband didn't.

Her husband was not raised to help people, in times of needs.  He could not understand, what comng out in the wash meant.  He felt, I must have something up my sleeve. People just don't help people. How strange, to do something for someone, and not expect anything in return. What comes around goes around...what does that mean..coming out in the wash.. People in his life never did this.

Years passed and several years later, he became very sucessful. I never thought much about what had happen.

I recieved a call, out of the blue. 
My cousin's husband called to tell me, it came out in the wash.

I was confused on what he was saying, since this was so many, many years ago.
He said to me. I never understood, why you did that.  Now, I understand,  I was able to help a family member today and didn't want any payment, they were down on there luck. I was just glad, I could help.  I told them not to worry, it all comes out in the wash...I never forgot what you did for us.  I smiled and thought of you. 

Now I know what you meant.  We all throw a shirt in, when we have one and it spins around ...and we all get a clean shirt when we need one... It sure does come out in the wash. 

Well, I wouldn't say it , like that put i think he got the idea...

Years later, my parents business, which we all worked so hard for, became sucessful. My mother started her own businss and became sucessful with that too.  At my mother's funeral, many, many people. I never meet came over to me, to tell me, your mother helped us when we were down in our luck and didn't want us to tell anyone. She just said someday, you'll be able return the favor to someone in need.  She has changed our lifes and  i will never forget her faith and kindness,  it got us though, and we can't thank her enough. Somehow she knew we needed it, and I have never forgotten. Now i am in a postion to help others. Hearing this story over and over again from all these different strangers, at my mother's funeral, just made me smile. It remind me of my grandfather, finding the $20 bill he had left under a lamp ....when we were in need.....it reminded me of my mother saying, for everything you give you get back tenfold....No wonder she was such a sucessful woman... 

in today's world, people expect hand outs, without working for them,
If someone is down on there luck, it's there own fault..people don't seem to care...people get to the top and forget the ones that help them get there. or they give a few trinkets and say look at me for helping thoughs poor people out, boy , I'm glad I'm not like them. They give for friendship or try to buy love. They want everyone to know what they gave, hey, look at what a nice guy i am and what I have done, yet there family or extented family is in needed but why give to them, people aren't impressed if I  give to my family,  people get upset when others get things they didn't, even if they didn't need it.  Why help that person on the street or homeless..we don't want to see that side of the world, we are on the top now.  I worked to get here let them do the same. We give to children in different countries, or save the pets.  We love to show what we donated to this or that or what good deeds we did., but many people in our lives that need us we turn away. We turn our backs on our children, our grandkids, our parents, Aunts and Uncles, nieces and nephews....We don't want to remember hardtimes., we don't even want to associate or spend time with people down on there luck, but will give to that fund, at the office for that cause, or that person you barely know they a card is passed around at work.   We buy your girlfriends or boyfriend kids or help them out and forget your own blood relatives, because your family isn't  grateful.  We even give to causes,  just so we get are name on a flyer, or a tax write off.


There is not one sucessful or lucky person who someone has not been helped along the way, that gave with their heart, and gave them the faith to sucess.  Anyone who has gave with there heart , they're good deed is not forgotten. They are smiling to see that person has sucessed.

Good friends are like stars....
You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.

~GOD BLESS!~

Our Clan has been blessed knowing this
" What goes around, comes around"
Spread the Word and Shine the Light.
So all may smile and say...
don't worry, it will come out in the wash....

What ever you give, you get back tenfold.
if you give expecting something in return,
you didn't give anyone anything.
No good deed goes unnoticed.